Showing posts with label men and women. Show all posts
Showing posts with label men and women. Show all posts

6 Aug 2013

Gender Patterns



One of the things that is often overlooked in debates about the sexual objectification of women in the arts, media and society, is the fact that it does not just attempt to impose a restrictive model of femininity and a norm of female behaviour. It also - just as insidiously - constructs male identity, determining how men should view women, as well as understand their own selves and their relationships to others.    

Thus the so-called lads' mags - to take an example that has been much discussed of late, thanks to a campaign co-organized by UK Feminista - do not merely objectify the girls stripped naked on their covers and within their pages; they also subjectify their adolescent male readers and provide a masturbatory and misogynistic channeling of what is wrongly assumed to be an instinctive and innocent flow of desire.

Lawrence was only half-right when he said that women need to follow ever-changing patterns of femininity and to constantly adapt themselves to male fantasies and theories of womanhood. Young men also seek codes of conduct to which they might subscribe and conform; they learn how to sit, how to stand, how to walk, how to talk, how to love, how to hate ...

The truth is there are no real men any more than there are real women. Gender is entirely a matter of cultural artifice and whilst the patterns we construct of manhood and womanhood may sometimes be very beautiful and sometimes truly grotesque, they're never "perverted from any real natural fulness of human being". This is simply a piece of idealistic naivety: for no such underlying metaphysical essence exists.

And so the real question is: what models of manhood and womanhood are we going to create as a society (if such models there must be); who will determine them; how will they be circulated and encoded; and what variations and infringements will we allow?

I would hope that we might do better than what we are presently stuck with; tired and lame patterns of men and women within a very regrettable system of dualism that shame us all in their emotional and imaginative poverty.     

Note: See D. H. Lawrence, 'Give Her a Pattern', in Late Essays and Articles, ed. James T. Boulton, (CUP, 2004), pp. 160-65.